Why resolutions can’t work
Hi, this is Cornelia, the Psychic Medium & Coach you once asked to provide solutions.
With the turn of the year, on their birthday, especially when entering the next decade, many people make resolutions for fundamental changes in their lives.
Just as many claim not to make any resolutions at all. But… is an expectation (everything will be better /worse) not also just a resolution…?
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The “January 17th – Disaster”
The New Year is only a few days old and your personal “New Year – New Me” plans, hopes and expectations are going strong! Well, are they?
As a matter of fact, within three weeks, even the most excellent resolutions have already been ditched.
Resolutions don’t work.
Dang!
We can only pursue it on willpower alone for this long (or short):
About 3 weeks.
Well, it’s official:
Resolutions don’t work,
But pictures and stories do!
And we’re not talking about the pictures in your phone here.
Why is that?
When you change your behavior (which is the main component of most resolutions), the change in behavior itself is absolutely secondary to the change of the story in your head that underlies the “bad” behavior.
“Inner Stories” Mindset. Heritage.
Let’s say you decide to eat less sugar. That’s healthy. And you may want to lose some weight anyway.
But an inner voice tells you, “I totally crave sweets. NOW! I always had a sweet tooth!”
Approximately how long does it take for this inner story to make you abandon your abstinence?
Sugar wins because you haven’t altered your psychological relationship with it.
The same goes for your love life and your financial story.
The subconscious runs 90 percent of our habits
Did you ever think to yourself:
– I don’t want to have the kind of relationship my parents had. I also don’t want to be such parents as my parents were.
Or
– Money was sooo stressful in my childhood. I don’t want to have to worry about money the way my parents did.
Or
– I will never find the right partner.
Or
– I think I’m doing okay, but … the idea of not having mutual love, certainty in the relationship, and the thought that money is becoming tight is always there somehow.
Or
– I am not being responsible with money.
Or
– Whenever things are going well, some unexpected issue pops up and ruins everything.
Or
– I make good money, but it keeps evaporating.
The inner story(s) about what security is…
The thoughts mentioned above are the modules of inner stories and mindsets around security – in love, with money, in life.
You grow up with them, they are inherited through the generations, echoed in your upbringing. Thus they are the foundation of your life.
They produce the outcome of your very own experiences.
Even worse: You pass them on to your children.
Unknowingly. Unwillingly.
The most important thing is that inner stories can be changed.
Change is possible. Yay!
Well, when your inner financial story changes to the better, it will affect your actual financial health.
That’s what we can instantly believe.
When your inner relationship story changes, mostly the relationship to yourself, it will positively impact your health AND your financial health as well.
That’s what we can instantly … – Wait, do we believe that self-love cures financial issues?
Think twice.
But as a matter of fact, it’s as simple as that:
There’s the word “worth” in “self-worth”.
Knowing that someone loves you reinforces your natural perception of your own worth. The perception of your inner worth is then “validated”.
For some, it may be so for the first time (Hmm… Narcissist parents…?).
We instantly realize that our perception of our inner value is damaged when experiencing a breakup.
Then again:
We also notice this damage when NOT breaking up, even if the relationship is dreadful.
Just because we are afraid of having to put ourselves on the “market” = Low self-worth alert!
(And maybe we have a few pounds too much, see above, the story with the cupcake. Sugar comforts us over many sufferings… And then we either think: He (she) also has a belly. Or: I won’t get to know anyone in winter anyway).
= Low self-worth alert!
We also notice this – crystal clear – when we are being bullied.
On “regular” plans
I know that “changing the inner stories”, means
changing the values / changing the mindset,
may sound quite absurd, when you could just make a budgeting plan to live financially happily ever after.
Right?
One also could better sign up for a dating app and then live happily ever after.
Right?
Regular plans & tools work: Sometimes.
However, they work much better if you prevent deeply rooted, outdated expectations about partnership,
ingrained financial behaviors and patterns
from taking over your life!
Bottom Line
I invite you to think about some of the inner stories you tell yourself
…about love, money and how to handle life.
What are these inner stories costing you?
I mean in the currency ofÂ
-lost time?
-nerves?
-and also in euros/dollars/bitcoin?
???
Apart from bad headaches, nasty frown lines, and tense jaws.
What if…
What if there was a possibility to know more than one level, where pain comes from?
Other than the physical level.
Other than the psychosomatic level.
For instance, having a look into the ancestors line – checking the emotional burden, not only health.
Having a look into the aura, energy field, the individual quantum field.
Having a look into past life burdens.
Checking these levels – even and more – is possible.
Happy Endings Finally Possible
The good news is, checking all the levels usually takes only ONE session to display all what causes trouble and connect the dots.
 To provide so, I offer a first session of up to 2 hours, to do a complete energy field diagnosis:
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It doesn’t mean you won’t get a lot out of it. You will! A 2-hour energy field diagnosis with me is of infinite worth.
That means, this complete energ field diagnosis can be booked as a single session. Or be the start of a coaching companionship.
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No more nagging Uncertainty
After having discovered the Grand Design, it’s easy to find a modality, method to bring everything in balance.
Until then, our subconscious mind tends to feel unsafe – and maybe inferior, thus it’s not really possible for us to truly thrive.